You have been dating a man for a while now but you live far away from each other. You make the relationship work by visiting each other as much as you can, calling every day and talking on the internet. As time goes on you feel that you can't handle the long distance separation anymore. It just becomes too much for you, making you depressed and feeling lonely most of the time. So, reluctantly you decide to end the relationship. But that was the worst thing you did because you still love him and you miss him like crazy.
You decide to start seeing other people, more local, and you find a really good man. You feel like you could be falling in love with him. You feel he is incredibly sexy and can be a lot of fun to be around but, you have several differences and you find the relationship difficult. You seem to always be comparing him to your lost lover from afar. This commonly happens to couples that do not break up for the right reasons and even though you don't realize it, this new lover is the rebound guy.
Ultimately, you have two choices. You try to forget about your ex or you try to get him back into your life. This is something that you have to figure out for yourself. No one can decide for you who is the best choice. I do suggest that you use the oldest trick in the book for this situation. Get out a pen and paper and make the list. Write down everything good about each of them as well as everything not so good. Obviously, the one that comes out on top, wins.
You know deep down that you are not over your ex at all if you keep comparing other men to him. Long distance relationships should never be broken because you are apart. If you love each other, you will be together eventually and it would be well worth the wait.
If your ex wins that list, call him and ask for forgiveness. Tell him how much he means to you. If you don't, you could be missing out on the best thing that could ever happen to you. And I am willing to bet the sex will be fantastic once you are able to get together again.
If you are in a long distance relationship and you find yourself becoming depressed and lonely, don't despair. There are numerous things a couple can do together while apart. I am all about creativity when it comes to relationships and being creative is how long distance relationships last. So I want to give you a few creative tips to keep things interesting and worthwhile for the wait.
1. Watch a favorite TV show together on the phone or while you are online. Make sure to talk about the show and the commercials.
2. Learn new things about each other. Ask a fun and interesting question every day.
3. Make your partner happy. Send a romantic card or a drawing to show them that you are thinking of them.
4. Make a relationship diary. You have it for one week and every day write in it things that you don't say to your partner directly. Certain ways he makes you feel, even what you were doing one day that made you think of him. Then mail it to him. He gets to read it, write in it for a week and then mail it back to you. It can get extremely romantic and keeps you both very interested in the relationship.
5. Make a CD play list for each other with songs that remind you of one another.
6. Take pictures with your phone every day of funny things that you see or just of you doing your day to day activities. Send them to your partner so they can share the days moments with you.
7. Make sure you use that web cam! Skype, instant messaging, it's very important that you try to talk to your partner every day. Turn your web cams on when you are doing things around the house. It can help to make you feel like you are actually there with each other.
8. Don't forget to send those little sweet text messages often.
9. Update your Facebook or MySpace account status by dedicating it to your partner.
10. Play online games together using Yahoo or any other gaming site you know of.
Bottom line is, there are literally hundreds of ways to stay connected when you can't physically be connected. Make it creative, fun, maybe even a bit naughty and it is sure to last till you can see each other again.
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