Advice If You Found Out Your Husband Was Having an Affair Or Was Cheating On You

Even though it was years ago, I still very vividly remember when I found out about my husband's affair. Saying I was devastated is not a strong enough description. I was completely floored, horribly betrayed, and I felt so lost. I could not fathom that I would ever feel any better, or that things could improve. Worse, I really had no one to talk to. When I did reach out to others, I received conflicting advice from those who had never been there. Some told me to forgive my husband's affair is just "typical male behavior," while some demanded that I get my children and walk out the door even though my husband was doing everything in his power to save our marriage in the aftermath.

In truth, none of these discussions made me feel any better. They just made me feel conflicted. I felt like a spineless pushover when I was around the friends who told me to dump him. And, I felt like an unforgiving fraud around those who told me to forgive him. So, in this article, I will offer you advice from someone who has been exactly where you are. I hope to offer the advice I wish I had gotten.

Do Not Carry The Burden Of The Affair. The Cheating Is Not Your Fault: I can not begin to tell you how many women contact me even when they have just found out about the affair and when things are still very raw, who are completely willing to shoulder some of the blame for the affair. They will say things like "I should have given him more attention," or "I didn't make enough time for him," or "I shouldn't have ignored the signs." All of these things may well be true, at least a little. But, you were not the one who made the decision to cheat. He was. I am sure there were times when you too felt neglected or restless, but you likely handled it in another way rather than cheating.

I don't say these things to paint your husband as evil. Men very often don't see an affair as the same way that women do. They can separate the love for their wives and cheating, believe it or not. They often don't stop to think about the consequences of their actions and often they think you will never find out . They often justify what they are doing by telling themselves that they are taking care of whatever is going on themselves without having to burden you with it. I know this sounds ridiculous, but I can tell you from the men who contact me for help in saving their marriages that this is their thought process, as completely flawed as it is.

And, very often, men cheat because of how they feel about themselves, not because of how they feel about you. They are trying to recapture feelings of being attractive, powerful, successful, and competent. In short, they are trying to rescue their own self esteem. Understand this for what it is their flaw, not yours.

Why do men cheat on beautiful women like Jennifer Aniston or Princess Diana? Because they are lacking within themselves.

Be Kind To Yourself And Open To The Idea That Eventually Something Positive Can Emerge From All Of This: It may not feel like it right now. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that it doesn't, but please believe me when I say that in time, the choking feeling that plagues you right now will eventually lessen and loosen it's grip. It won't happen over night. There may well be many difficult days ahead, but very often affairs actually improve marriages if you handle the aftermath correctly. What happens is that both spouses learn that they can't take one another for granted and that neglect can leave a marriage vulnerable. In short, they "wake up" and change the way they communicate and interact.

There are some common pitfalls that you can avoid to expedite your healing. First, please trust me when I say that you need to tell your husband exactly how you feel and exactly what you need if you ultimately decide to save your marriage. Many women are afraid to expose their husband's to extent of how they really feel, for fear that this will only make them appear more unattractive or damaged.

The problem with this, though, is that if you keep stuffing your feelings down, eventually they are going to come out in very negative ways. You'll find yourself making sarcastic or hurtful comments. You'll pull yourself back from trusting again. You build a huge wall around yourself that ensures you'll have trouble restoring intimacy and closeness, even if this is what you really want deep down.

Probably one of the most common misunderstandings that I see is that the wife needs reassurance and accountability but doesn't say a word about this. So, when the husband isn't forthcoming with affection or the email passwords, the wife reads this as "see, I knew that he no longer wants me or no longer finds me attractive," while the husband is thinking "man, I'd really like to take her in my arms, say I'm so desperately sorry, and hold her, but the second I do, she's going to become angry or reject me." So, no one is saying anything and both people are disappointed, although they both want the same things.

Finally, you probably will need to work on restoring your self esteem. You should not deny this or feel guilty about it. It is completely normal and you may have to separate yourself from your marriage to do it. What I mean by this is that while you are working on your marriage, you will also need to work on yourself simultaneously. But, this really can be a positive experience. Give yourself permission to address the things about yourself that have always bothered you, but you put on the back burner. Focus on taking care of yourself as much as you care for others. It may feel selfish, but keep right on doing it. Because the truth is, you will need a healthy dose of self worth to really get over this. And, you need to see yourself as the beautiful and desirable woman you are to believe that your husband really feels this way about you as well.

To reada very personal story of how I worked on myself and ultimately saved my marriage after my husband's affair, please visit my blog at http://surviving-the-affair.com/

Automatic blog by iAutoblog

Why Married Men Cheat - Eight Reasons Men Tend to Step Out of Their Relationship

After all, they are married so they shouldn't be wandering away from their wife and responsibilities. However, they do wander away from the relationship and they do cheat. Yet, why do married men cheat on their spouses? What are the reasons that make them decide the relationship they are in is not worth staying faithful to? There are actually several reasons men tend to wander out of their relationships in search of the "next best thing".

Eight Reasons Why Married Men Cheat On Their Wives

Reason 1 - Lack Of Love In Marriage

A big reason married men step out of their relationship is the lack of love they feel from it. If a woman rather spend her time with her friends or alone, then she isn't giving her husband the attention and love he needs to stay faithful to her. Many women, even if they still love their husbands, take them for granted that they will always be there. If you find your marriage in this kind of situation and you really do love your husband, you need to spend more quality time with him to show him.

Reason 2 - Lack Of Sex

Another reason why married men cheat is the fact that they aren't getting any sex from their wife, regardless of the reason. Men have sexual desires that need to be filled and if their wives are not giving it, they will look elsewhere to have it filled. This may seem cruel but it's just a fact of life.

Reason 3 - Wife Cheated First

A third reason why married men cheat on their wives is because their wives cheated first, as if this is a justification for their actions. Yet, it doesn't matter if a man's wife cheated first, he doesn't have to cheat himself to get back at her. This should never be an excuse but it is a major reason given as to why married men cheat.

Reason 4 - Relationship Has Gotten Stale

When a couple has been married for some time, the relationship can become old and stale. Men, whose wives never want to join them in the things they do for fun, may step out to find someone who will do those things with them. Everyone wants someone they can have fun with before marriage and after it as well. If you want to save your marriage, don't let that fun fire fizzle out.

Reason 5 - Lack Of Trying New Sexual Things

Couples who have been together for some time can find things going stale in the bedroom. If a husband finds there's no willingness to try new things from his wife, he may decide that he wants to try these new things with another woman. It's the desire to have a fresh sex life that causes some married men to cheat on their wives.

Reason 6 - Constant Nagging

Another reason why married men cheat on their wives is the constant nagging they give their husbands. Nagging, no matter what the reason, is very annoying and men will often find a woman who won't nag them about minute details.

Reason 7 - Lack Of Communication

Married men who find they are having a hard time communicating with their spouse will often look to other women to fill this void. It's another big reason why married men cheat on their wives. If you find that your relationship lacks communication, you need to open those lines up again, if you desire to save your marriage.

Reason 8 - Unable To Stop Cheating

Some married men cheat just to cheat. They may have the inability to stop stepping out of their relationships and cheat whenever the mood strikes them. They may like the idea of being married but once the "newness" of it has worn off, he is back to his old cheating ways. This boils down to having the lack of self-control to stop themselves.

These are the eight reasons why married men cheat. If you're a married woman who worries about her husband cheating on her, then remember to keep the lines of communication open, listen to his ideas of trying new things, stay involved with the fun things in his life and don't cheat on him.

Calling All Wives: Are you in a situation where you partner has cheated on you? Get advice for dealing with infidelity and key strategies for reconnecting and dealing with your relationship issues right now! If you want to learn how to save your marriage when your partner has been affected by infidelity, then visit http://towinbackex.com/how-to-save-my-marriage/

Here, you will find a link to Save My Marriage Today Premium Home Study Course which was developed by Andrew Rusbatch covering all the fundamental aspects of examining relationships and how to save my marriage He provides resolutions to marriage problems such as: Ten steps to save your marriage after infidelity. If your marriage is affected by infidelity learn first-hand the key steps to stop the decline and start to make improvements immediately! It is a valuable tool that will change your marriage and change your life! See it for yourself.

Automatic blog by iAutoblog

when working from home

A home-based business has a lot of advantages over the traditional 9-5 office system, and most web hosting businesses seem to be run out of an home office. However, working from home could mean that you might lose the structure and schedule of a normal office environment. We collected a few tips and tricks to keep you on track.

Kick Start Your Day

How you start off will determine how you end up! Begin your day with some positive thinking, do some workout (running, ride your bike) to get your head cleared out, have a healthy breakfast of reasonable size (too much food makes you tired again), take a shower, and then get started on your work day.

Develop A Work Schedule

Working at home will come with it a lot of flexibility and freedom. However, you need to be careful that you don't misuse it. You are now your own boss, so act as if you ARE the boss! Work out strict time schedules -and stick to it. Plan out all the all the tasks you would like to get accomplished in your day, and make sure that you achieve your target. If you are not disciplined enough it will come back and haunt you.

Love Your Work

Make sure that the work you do is something you really enjoy doing. To be successful in this business, you need to be really passionate about your work. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that because you have a background in web hosting and the experience in this field, that this will be a breeze. Learn to recognize what will motivate you, what will excite you - and build your business based on that spirit. If you are afraid to check the status of your servers and email every morning and it is giving you a weird feeling in your stomach you should eventually consider a different career. One sure sign of knowing that you really love your work is to get that motivating and relaxed feeling when you wake up every morning. Of course, you're going to have your good days and your bad days at the office - but a strong enthusiasm for your work ensures that you'll end up having more good days than bad days at the office.

Have a Real Home Office

Running your business from your bedroom is really not the best idea. You should have a separate area to work from. This could be a second bedroom in your apartment or a finished basement in your house. If that is not possible (e.g. you live in a one-bedroom apartment, you will have to work around it - especially if you do not live alone. A Spanish wall and a real desk will eventually give you a little 'room'. Make sure you keep an office a priority when moving one day. If you already have enough space and a separate office, furnish it accordingly. I personally use a kitchen countertop board as my desk. It goes from wall to wall across the room. It is deeper than a regular desk and I have plenty of space for everything. Having space can be a key. It is easier to find tools, manuals, or documentation. I can reach the printer and the cable router easily and the fax is also just 'around the corner'.

Establish that "you are at work"

Imagine you are at work in your home office and your wife or kids come into the room every 5 minutes. As nice as it is to have them around - often you need to make sure that they understand that you are working. You cannot just run down to the grocery store to buy diapers or milk real quick. You are at work. Or did your boss at your old place of employment did let you go to the grocery store 'real quick'? Probably not.

Snacks

You might feel like munching while you work, and that's one of the benefits of not working in a conservative corporate environment, right? However, be sure that you do not have to leave your office for everything. A journey through the house in search of food might lead to a detour or two to check up on what the kids are doing. 5 minutes here and there can add up really fast. Remember - you want to be productive.

Family Time Out

This one might seem a very difficult initially - but keep your work time separate from your family time. Of course, one of the prime reasons of you opening your home-based business was probably to spend time with family. However, your business is serious business, and needs some serious time too! The great thing is - you can often work around family things. Seeing your son playing soccer in the afternoon can be rewarding and it makes the work at night easier to handle. Most parents will miss a lot of their kids activities because they have to work in an office downtown.

This article can be published by anyone as long as a live back link to is provided. (this note can be removed as long as a link from the author's resource box is provided)

Automatic blog by iAutoblog

Anniversary Gifts & Presents From Find-me-a-gift

Anniversary Gifts & presents from find-me-a-gift

Find-me-a-gift have a fantastic range of unique anniversary gifts to suit everyone. From the traditional to the unique you will find something as they have over 1000 gift & gadget ideas.
http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/wedding-anniversary-gifts/anniversary-presents-ideas.asp

Here are our top 10 Anniversary gift ideas

Personalised Champagne - A lovely bottle of J D Telmont Champagne with a personalised label of your choice (up to 28 words).

Champagne J. De Telmont is from Damery, a small village, 8km from Epernay on the banks of the River Marne. De Telmont was founded by the Lhopital family in the middle of the last century and is ranked amongst the thirty largest champagne houses. http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gifts-for-men/personal-gift/personalised-bottle-of-champagne.html

Become a Laird or Lady of the Glen - Please note this is a Scottish "Laird" title which is equivalent to the English "Lord" title
Become a Lord (Laird) or Lady when you buy this gift and be the owner of a plot of land on the Kincavel Estate in Sonachan, Scotland, and have legal usage of the title Laird (meaning land owner). Laird is a title that can be used by men or women but the commonly accepted equivalent for women is Lady. http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gifts-for-men/unusual-gadgets/laird-lord-and-lady-of-the-glen.html

Name a Star - Name a Star is a wonderful present for anyone. Send someone special into orbit by Naming a Star after them with the Intergalactic Star Database. This thoughtful personalised gift will last 10 billion years, longer than anything else you could ever buy them. The Name a Star gift is perfect for your loved ones and will let them know how much you value them. Every time they want to see their present, they can just look up at night and see a beautiful shining reminder of you.
http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gifts-for-men/personal-gift/name-a-star.html

Bouquet of flowers Fast UK guaranteed delivery will ensure our range of fresh flowers arrives in perfect condition. Browse our collection by clicking on one of the orange buttons above and send flowers to a loved one today. Order your Mothers day or anniversary flowers today and we will ensure that they are delivered when you need them to be. http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/flowers/flowers-delivery.asp

Silver Rolo My last Rolo - Do you love anyone enough to give them your last silver rolo? This fun yet thoughtful gift is perfect for all occasions and is sure to have them grinning with happiness. The Last Silver Rolo is a great way of letting someone know how much you care as well as giving someone the priceless gift of putting a smile on your face. http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gift-ideas-for-women/presents/silver-rolo-my-last-rolo.html
Wine Tasting Experience For Two - You'll be amazed at the skill, effort and experience it takes to produce a quality wine. Enjoy a tour of an English vineyard and take home a complimentary bottle of wine per couple to drink at your leisure. http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gifts-for-men/men/wine-tasting-experience-for-two.html

Silver & Diamond Love Token - A sincere and lasting keepsake for someone very special. A real diamond is set within the centre of the disc and the words, "think of me when you look upon this" are inscribed around the outside of this diamond and silver love token. http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gifts-for-men/personal-gift/silver-and-diamond-love-token.html

Philips 7 & 9-Inch Digital Photo Frame Philips 7" and 9" Digital Photo Frame Display
Every picture tells a story. How many digital pictures are hidden on your PC? See, share and relive your memories with Philips Digital Photo Display, the easiest way to display your digital photos in print quality - without a PC
http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gifts-for-men/men/philips-7-inch-digital-photo-frame.html

Message in a bottle - The Message in a Bottle is one of the most important gifts we offer. You could buy someone a 1,000,000 diamond ring and still not make it clear what they meant to you. The Message in a Bottle gives you the chance to do exactly that. You've got plenty of space to let someone know exactly how you feel, whether it's a heart-rending love letter or a simple thank you!
http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gifts-for-men/men/message-in-a-bottle.html

Name a Rose - Name A Rose Gift Set. Name a Rose gift pack is a beautiful gift which is both touching and unique. Inside the gift box is a unique unnamed pack of rose seeds for recipient to nurture and grow. By filling in the enclosed registration card they can name their rose and have this information stored on the official "Name a Rose" database.
http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/gift-ideas-for-women/personal-gift/name-a-rose-gift-set.html

Tips
Traditional and Modern Anniversary Gifts Guide
Year: 1st Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Paper
Modern Gift(s): Clocks
Gemstone: Gold Jewelry

Year: 2nd Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Cotton
Modern Gift(s): China
Gemstone: Garnet

Year: 3rd Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Leather
Modern Gift(s): Crystal, Glass
Gemstone: Pearl

Year: 4th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Fruit, Flowers
Modern Gift(s): Appliances
Gemstone: Topaz

Year: 5th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Wood
Modern Gift(s): Silverware
Gemstone: Sapphire

Year: 6th - Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Candy, Iron
Modern Gift(s): Candy, Iron
Gemstone: Amethyst

Year: 7th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Wool, Copper
Modern Gift(s): Desk Sets
Onyx

Year: 8th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Bronze, Pottery
Modern Gift(s): Bronze, Pottery
Gemstone: Tourmaline

9th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Pottery, Willow
Modern Gift(s): Linen, Lace
Gemstone: Lapis Lazuli

10th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Tin, Aluminum
Modern Gift(s): Leather
Gemstone: Diamonds

11th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Steel
Modern Gift(s): Jewelry
Gemstone: Turquiose

Year: 12th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Silk, Linen
Modern Gift(s): Pearls
Gemstone: Jade

13th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Lace
Modern Gift(s): Textiles, Furs
Gemstone: Citrine

14th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Ivory
Modern Gift(s): Gold Jewelry
Gemstone: Opal

15th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Crystal
Modern Gift(s): Watches
Gemstone: Ruby
20th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): China
Modern Gift(s): Platinum
Gemstone: Emerald

25th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Silver
Modern Gift(s): Silver
Gemstone: Silver

30th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Pearl
Modern Gift(s): Diamond
Gemstone: Pearl

Year: 35th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Coral
Modern Gift(s): Jade
Gemstone: Emerald

40th Anniversary gifts
45th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Sapphire
Modern Gift(s): Sapphire
Gemstone: Sapphire

50th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Gold
Modern Gift(s): Gold
Gemstone: Gold

55th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Emerald
Modern Gift(s): Emerald
Gemstone: Alexandrite
60th Anniversary gifts
Traditional Gift(s): Diamond
Modern Gift(s): Diamond
Gemstone: Diamonds

To see our full range of gift ideas please click below
http://www.find-me-a-gift.co.uk/wedding-anniversary-gifts/anniversary-presents-ideas.asp

Automatic blog by iAutoblog

Voice of Freedom

SALMAN RUSHDIE- "A book is a version of the world. If you do not like it, ignore it, or offer your own version in return."

SALMAN RUSHDIE "How to defeat terrorism: Don't be terrorized. Don't let fear rule your life. Even if you are scared."

SALMAN RUSHDIE "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it."

SALMAN RUSHDIE "Most of what matters in your life takes place in your absence."

SALMAN RUSHDIE "Terrible things are being done today in the name of Islam, but simplification of the issue, when it involves omitting every thing that can't easily be blistered by Naipaul's Olympian disgust, is of no help."

SALMAN RUSHDIE,,Free speech is the whole thing, the whole ball game. Free speech is life itself.

SALVADOR DALI "The one thing the world will never have enough of is the outrageous."

SALVADOR DALI "There are some days when I think I'm going to die from an overdose of satisfaction."

SALVADOR DALI "There is only one difference between a madman and me. The madman thinks he is sane. I know I am mad."

SALVADOR DALI "Wars have never hurt anybody except the people who die."

SAM EWING "Hard work spotlights the character of people: some turn up their sleeves, some turn up their nose, and some don't turn up at all."

SAM KEEN "Love isn't about becoming somebody's perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly."

SAM KEEN "Once we abandon the age-old quest for consistency, for forging a single identity, for a unifying vision, we are left with no guiding principle except to follow the dictates of the moment."

SAM KEEN "You come to love not by finding the perfect person but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly."

SAM LEVENSON "Love at first sight is easy to understand, it's when two people have been looking at each other for a life time that it becomes a miracle."

SAM PECKINPAH "There is a great streak of violence in every human being. If it is not channelled and understood, it will break out in war or in madness."

SAMANTABHADRA "Just as a fire quickly reduces decayed wood to ashes, so does an aspirant who is totally absorbed in the inner self and completely unattached to all external objects shake to the roots, attenuate, and wither away his karma body."

SAMAYIKA PATHA "May the Lord of Lords, who is free from all blemishes like attachment and aversion which hold in tight bondage all embodied beings, who has no need of sense organs, is knowledge itself and eternally independent, be enshrined in my heart. May the Lord of Lords, whose cognition pervades all the objects in the cosmos, who has attained liberation and perfection, is fully enlightened and absolutely free from the bondage of karma, and whose contemplation destroys all spiritual aberrations, reside in my heart."

SAMI MAHDI "From gazelles' eyes the pupils dropped when the bridge was bombed Lovers9 rings shattered and mothers were bewildered... with fire we perform our ablutions every morning collecting our remnants And the debris of our houses We purge our souls with the blood of our wounds... Plenty we have received what shall we offer you, 0 lands of patient destitutes? Plenty we have received so receive us and pave with us the paths of wayfarers."

SAMI MANSEI "Living in this world/to what shall I compare it? It's like a boat/rowing out at break of day/ leaving no trace behind."

SAMUEL BECKETT- "Ever tried? Ever failed? No matter. Try again, fail again."

SAMUEL BECKETT- "Ever tried? Ever failed? No matter. Try again, fail again. Fail better."

SAMUEL BECKETT -"Every word is like an unnecessary stain on silence and nothingness."

SAMUEL BECKETT "I have my faults, but changing my tune is not one of them."

SAMUEL BECKETT- "We are all borne mad. Some remain so."

SAMUEL BECKETT- "What have I done to god, what has god done to us, what have they done to god?"

SAMUEL BUCKET "Nothing happens, no body comes, no body goes, and it's awful."

SAMUEL BUTLER "All progress is based upon a universal innate desire on the part of every organism to live beyond its income."

SAMUEL BUTLER "And as the French we conquered once, now give us laws for pantaloons. The length of breeches and the gathers Port-connons, periwigs, and feathers."

SAMUEL BUTLER- "Man is the only animal that laughs and a has state legislature."

SAMUEL BUTLER- "Self preservation is the first law of nature."

SAMUEL BUTLER "The only absolute morality is absolute stagnation."

SAMUEL BUTLER "Union may be strength, but it is mere blind brute strength unless wisely directed."

SAMUEL BUTLER THE YOUNGER "To himself every one is a immortal, he may know that he is going to die but he can never know that he is dead."

SAMUEL COLERIDGE "Language is the armory of the human mind, and at once contains the trophies of its past and the weapons of its future conquests."

SAMUEL GOLDWYN "No person who is enthusiastic about his work has anything to fear from life."

SAMUEL GRAFTON "A penny will hide the biggest star in the Universe if you hold it close enough to your eye."

SAMUEL HOFFENSTEIN "My soul is dark with stormy riot, Directly traceable to diet."

SAMUEL JACKSON "All argument is against it; but all belief is for it."

SAMUEL JACKSON "Everybody likes stories about underdogs that overcome."

SAMUEL JOHNSON - "Oh, no, not me, I never lost control. You're face to face, with the man who sold the world."

SAMUEL JOHNSON - "You have no business with consequences, you are to tell the truth."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Agriculture not only gives riches to a nation, but the only riches she can call her own."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "All travel has its advantages. If the passenger visits better countries, he may learn to improve his own. And if fortune carries him to worse, he may learn to enjoy it."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "All travel has its advantages. If the passenger visits better countries, he may learn to improve his own. And if fortune carries him to worse, he may learn to enjoy it."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Do not accustom yourself to use big words for little matters."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Every man naturally persuades himself that he can keep his resolutions. He is convinced by the length of time and frequency of experiment."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Great works are performed not by strength, but by perseverance."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "If a man does not make new acquaintance as he advances through life, he will soon find himself alone. A man, Sir, should keep his friendship in constant repair."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Instead of rating the man by his performances, we rate too frequently the performances by the man."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Life is a progress from want to want, not from enjoyment to enjoyment."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Magnificence can not be cheap, for what is cheap can not be magnificent."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage in triumph of hope over experience."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Patriotism is the last refuge of the scoundrel."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Resolve not to be poor: whatever you have, spent less. Poverty is a great enemy to human happiness; it certainly destroys liberty, and it makes some virtues impracticable, and others extremely difficult."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "So, if you are to speak for people, you must know them, and if you are to respect to people, you must love them."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "The fountain of content must spring up in the mind; and he who has so little knowledge of human nature as to see happiness by changing anything but his own disposition, will waste ; his life in fruitless : efforts, and multiply the grief which he proposes to remove."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "The return of my birthday, if I remember it, fills me with thoughts which it seems to be the general care of humanity to escape."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "The speculator; who is not content with superficial views, harasses himself with fruitless curiosity; and still, as he inquires more, perceives only that he knows less."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "The use of travelling is to regulate imagination by reality, and instead of thinking how things may be, to see them as they are."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "Those who attain any excellence commonly spend life in one pursuit; for excellence is not often granted upon easier terms."

SAMUEL JOHNSON "When making your choice in life, do not neglect to live."

SAMUEL SMILES "Fortune has often been blame for her blindness, but fortune is not as blind as men are."

SAMUEL SMILES "Hope is like the sun, which as we journey towards it, cast the shadow of our burden behind us."

SAMUEL STEAM "When I was young, life was a warm and gentle wind and I a weathercock crowing to the world. But now I am old, an uncertain arrow tremblingin the cold of a headless gale."

SAMUEL T COLERIDGE "Language is the armory of the human ' mind, and at once contains the trophies of its past and the weapons of its future conquests."

SAMUEL TAYLOR COLERIDGE "Advice is like snow - the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind."

SAMUEL TAYLOR COLERIDGE "How inimitably graceful children are before they learn to dance."

SAMUEL TAYLOR COLERIDGE "So will I build my altar in the fields, And the blue sky my fretted dome shall be, And the sweet fragrance that the wild flower yields Shall be the incense I will yield to thee."

SAMUEL ULLMAN "Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul."

SAMUEL ULLMAN "Youth is not a time of life it is a state of mind to find it."

SAMUEL ULLMAN "Youth is not a time of life; it is a state of mind."

SAMULI. PARONEN "Name is a fence and within it you are nameless."

SAMURAI WISDOM "I have no tactics; I make Emptiness and Fullness my tactics./ I have no talent; I make Ready Wit my talent./ I have no friends; I make the Mind my friend./ I have no enemy; I make Incautiousness my enemy./1 have no sword; I make No Mind my sword."

SAN TZU "Invincibility lies in the defence; the possibility of victory in the attack."

SANATAN "Krishna, who can fathom the depths .of thy heart? As the juggler makes the wooden puppet dance, so, too, does the man whom you inspire, dance without knowing why he is dancing or through whom."

SANAYA ROMAN "What you love is a sign from your higher self of what you are to do."

SANDMAN "Things need not have happened to be true. Tales and dreams are the shadow-truths that will endure when mere facts are dust and ashes, and forgot."

SANJAY SINGH "Life is just a game, roll the dice, spin the wheel. Whatever comes up is what you get. If you take the game seriously, you become obsessed by it, always '' trying to find a goal, but in the game of life, there is no colourful square that says finish."

SANKHAYANA ARANYAKA "Even as Brahma can change his form and move at will, so amongst all beings can he change his form and move at will who is a Comprehensor thereof."

SANSKRIT PROVERB "For breath is life, and if you breathe well you will live long on earth."

SANSKRIT SHIOKAANGIKAM BHUVANAM YASYA/ VACHIKAM SARVA ANGMAYAM/AHARYAM CHANDRA TARADI/ TARN NAMO, SATVIKAM SHIVAM "0 benevolent Shiva, whose dance is the whole of the cosmos, the music to which is all of creation, who is adorned with the moon and stars as his jewels, and whose abhinaya is eternal, I bow before you!"

SARA PADDISON "How many times a day does some situation pop up that leads to moments of frustration and anxiety? Surrendering your head to your heart in those moments will lead you to balance and fulfillment. As you listen to your spirit, peace follows. So follow your spirit. Build your foundation in your heart. Love must be your innermost and spontaneous response towards every person you encounter Say to yourself inside, "I just love". Use these words as a key to start the engine running in your heart and watch life brighten with new love and understanding. Surrender to your new awareness and let love unfold the purpose of creation to you."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "Choice is destiny's soul mate."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "Dreams need doing as much as they need being the being always comes first."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "Each day offers us simple gifts when we are willing to search our hearts for the place that's right for each of us."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "Grace is available for each of us every day our spiritual daily bread but we've got to remember to ask for it with a grateful heart and not worry about whether there will be enough for tomorrow."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "Happiness that the world cannot take away only flourishes in the secret garden of our souls."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "Search for the sacred in the ordinary with gratitude in your heart and you will surely find it."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "The simpler we make our lives, the more abundant they become."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "There is no scarcity except in our souls."

SARAH BAN BREATHNACH "We don't know if a choice is wise or wrong until we've lived it."

SARAH MAC LAHAN "Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another's personhood."

SAROJINI NAIDU "Beloved, I offer to you in tender allegiance anew/ A bracelet of floss. Let me twist its tassels, vermilion and blue/ and violet, girdle your wrist. Accept this bright gage from my hand, Let your heart its sweet speech understand The ancient high symbol and end/ Is wrought on each gold-threaded strand,/ The fealty of friend unto friend./ A garland how frail of design,/ Our spirit to clasp and entwine/In devotion unstrained and unbroken,/ How slender a circle and sign/ Of secret, deep pledges unspoken."

SAROJINI NAIDU "In noon-tide hours, 0 Love, secure and strong, I need thee not; mad dreams are mine to bind The world to my desire, and hold the wind A voiceless captive to my conquering song. I need thee not, I am content with these: Keep silence in thy soul, beyond the seas! But in the desolate hour of midnight, when An ecstasy of starry silence sleeps And my soul hungers for thy voice, 0 then, Love, like the magic of wild melodies, Let thy soul answer mine across the seas."

SAROJINI NAIDU "Thy future calls thee with a manifold sound To crescent honours, splendours, victories vast; Waken, O slumbering Mother and be crowned, Who once were empress of the sovereign past."

SARVAJNANOTTARA AGAMA "All visibles and invisibles, movables and immovables, are pervaded by Me. All the worlds existing in the tattvas from Shakti to Prithvi exist in me. Whatever is heard or seen, internally or externally, is pervaded by Me."

SARVEPALLI RADHAKRISHANAN- "The worst sinner has a future, even as the greatest saint has had a past. No one is so good or bad as he imagines."

SARVEPALLI RADHAKRISHNAN- "A good teacher must know how to arouse the interest of the pupil in the field of study for which he is responsible he must himself be a fellow traveler in the exciting pursuit of knowledge."

SARVEPALLI RADHAKRISHNAN "The worst sinner has a future, even as the greatest saint has had a past. No one is so good or so bad as he imagines."

SASHA AZEVEDO "To believe in yourself and to follow your dreams, to have goals in life and a drive to success, and to surround yourself with the things and the people that make you happy - this is success!"

SASKYA PANDITA "It may happen sometimes that a long debate becomes the cause of a longer friendship. Commonly, those who dispute with one another at last agree."

SATAPATHA BRAHMANA "In the beginning, to be sure, this world was water, nothing but a sea of water. The waters desired, "How can we be propagated?" They kindled their own ardour, performing this very act with fervour. While summoning their creative energy they warmed up and a golden egg wasproduced."

SAUL BELLOW "A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep."

SAYINGS OF BAHA'U'LLAH "Humility exalts man to the heaven of glory and power while pride abases him to the depths of wretchedness and degradation... Those I who are the beloved of God, in whatever place they gather and whomsoever they may meet, must ( evince, in their attitude towards God, and in the manner of their celebration of His praise and glory such humility and submissiveness that every atom of dust beneath theirs feet may attest the depth of their devotion."

SAYINGS OF THE PROPHET "Abu Jariya, an inhabitant of Basra, coming to Medina and being convinced of the inspired mission of Prophet Muhammad asked him, according to a Muslim historian, for some great rule of conduct. "Speak evil of no one," answered the Prophet."

SAYINGS OF ZARATHUSTRA "I If you want the whole I world to admire you, make everyone happy and waste no time in self admiration. Seek your happiness in the happiness of all. Regard the sorrows and sufferings of others as yours and hasten to assuage them."

SCHILLER "The man who fears nothing is not less powerful than he who is feared is every one."

SCHILLER "The opinion of the majority is not the final proof of what is right."

SCHILLER "The voice of the majority is no proof of justice."

SCHILLER "When the wine goes in, strange things come out."

SCHOPENHAUER "The first forty years of life give us the text; the next thirty supply the commentary."

SCOFF PECK "Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable."

SCOTT "Better ride safe in the dark, says the proverb, than in day light with a cutthroat at your elbow."

SCOTT ADAMS "Creativity is allowing oneself to make mistakes. Art knows which ones to keep."

SCOTT ADAMS "I respectfully decline the invitation to join your hallucination."

SCOTT ADAMS "Informed decision-making comes from a long tradition of guessing and then blaming others for inadequate results."

SCOTT HAMILTON "The only disability in life is a bad attitude."

SCOTTISH PROVERB- "Never merry for money. You'll borrow it cheaper."

SCOTTISH SAYING "From ghoulies and ghosties and longleggedy beasties and things that go bump in the night, Good Lord, deliver us!"

SEAMI MOTOKIYO "The objects of sense in the world ever changing These we adhere to as things of reality; But in the ocean of birth and death, they drown us. How long shall we wander in this path of dreams? This world to us! Indeed seems permanent and fixed, yet after all, what is it but a road of dreams to which life after life we must perforce return?"

SEAN 0 CASEY "There is no reason to bring religion into it. I think we ought to have as great a regard for religion as we can, so as to keep it out of as many things as possible."

SEAN CANNERY "I'm incredibly lucky to still be around, doing all the things I want to do and getting extremely well paid for it. There's a parallel with golf a lot of it is in the mind, and the moment you start to lose the enthusiasm or appetite, it affects your judgments and decisions. And then you stop performing well. I think enthusiasm. and appetite are more important than anything else."

SEAN CONNERY "I have always hated that damn James Bond. I'd like to kill him."

SEBASTIAN R N CHAMFORT "The most wasted day is that in which we have not laughed."

SEBUKTEGIN "Wealth cannot be acquired except by good government and wise statesmanship, and good government cannot be achieved except through justice and righteousness."

SENATOR ALAN BIBLE "We labour long and earnestly for peace, because war threatens the survival of man. It is time we laboured with equal passion to defend our environment. A polluted stream can be as lethal as a bullet."

SENECA - "Fidelity gained by bribes is overcome by bribe."

SENECA - "Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power."

SENECA- "A disease is further on the road to being cured when it breaks further from concealment."

SENECA "All things are cause for either laughter or weeping."

SENECA "As long as you live keep learning how to live."

SENECA -"As long as you live, keep learning how to live."

SENECA "As long as you live, keep learning how to live."

SENECA "As the soil, however; rich it may be cannot be productive without cultivation, so the mind without culture can never produce good fruit."

SENECA "Call it Nature, Fate, Fortune; all these are names of the one and selfsame God."

SENECA "Consult your friend on all things, especially on those with respect to yourself. His counsel may then be useful where your own self-love might impair your judgment."

SENECA -"Crime must be concealed by crime."

SENECA "Human affairs are like a chess game; only those who do not take it seriously can be called good players. Life is like an earthen pot: only when it is shatters does it manifest its emptiness."

SENECA "If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favourable."

SENECA "If wisdom were offered me with this restriction, that i should keep it close and not communicate it, i would refuse the gift."

SENECA "It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that things are different."

SENECA "Life is neither a good nor an evil, it is a simply the place where good and evil exist."

SENECA "Life's like a play; it's not the length but the excellence of the acting that matters."

SENECA "Many have gone through life merely accumulating the instruments of life. Consider individuals, survey men in general: there is none whose life does not look forward to the morrow. 'What harm is there in this?' you ask. Infinite harm; for such persons do not live, but are preparing to live. They postpone everything. While we are postponing, life speeds by."

SENECA "Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power."

SENECA "Not a soul takes thought how well he may live only how long; yet a good life might be everybody's a long one can be nobody's."

SENECA "Nothing is more disgraceful than that an old man should have nothing to show to prove that he has lived long, except his years."

SENECA "Old age is an incurable disease."

SENECA "The time will come when diligent research over long periods will bring to light things which now lie hidden... And so this knowledge will be unfolded only through long successive ages. There will come a time when our descendants will be amazed that we did mot know things that are so plain to them...Many discoveries are reserved for ages stills to come, when memory of us will have been effaced. Our universe is a sorry little affair unless it has in it something for every age to investigate... Nature does not reveal her mysteries once and for all."

SENECA "To wish to be well is a part of becoming well."

SENECA "Whenever we want to watch an eclipse of the sun we set out basins filled with oil or pitch, because the heavy liquid is not easily disturbed and so preserves the images it receives."

SENECA "Worse then war is the fear of war."

SENECA THE YOUNGER "A kingdom founded ; on injustice never lasts."

SENG-TS'AN "Stop talking, stop thinking, and there is nothing you will not understand. /Return to the Root and you will find the Meaning;/ Pursue the Light, and you will lose its source...There is no need to seek Truth; only stop having views."

SENG-TS'AN "The very small is as the very large when boundaries are forgotten; The very large is as the very small when its outlines are not seen."

SEUMES MACMANUS "Young people don't know what age is and old people forget what youth was."

SEUSS "You have brains in your bead, and feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose."

SEXTUS THE PYTHAGOREAN "Whatever you honour above all things, that which you so honour will have dominion over you. But if you give yourself to the domination of God, you will thus have dominion over all things."

SEYMOUR "How come you did all those miracles in the old days and don't do any now?"

SEYMOUR MILLS "Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me."

SHABANA AZMI "Auitudes on Ageing What is old age; when does it sneak in; who falls victim to it? A retired person at 60 qualifies as a senior citizen. But does that make her old? Tiny little adjustments can go a long way in providing the support senior citizens need. If we can free them from their worries and create the support structure they require, they will rise to the level of their own potential. On their own terms."

SHABI START- "Rise above time and space, pass by the world, and be to yourself you own world."

SHABISTARI "Behold the world mingled together, Angels with demons, Satan with the archangel. All mingled like seed and fruit, Infidel with faithful, and faithful with infidel. At the point of the present are gathered All cycles and seasons, day, month, and year. World at beginning is world without end."

SHABISTARI "If you cleave the heart of one drop of water, there will issue from it a hundred oceans."

SHABISTARI "If you wish to see that Face, Seek another eye. The philosopher With his two eyes sees double, So is unable to see unity of Truth."

SHABISTARI "In every strain which the tavern-haunters hear from the minstrel Comes to them rapture from the unseen world."

SHABISTARI "Pure being is too bright to behold, yet it can be seen reflected in the mirror of this world."

SHABISTARI "Rise above time and space, pass by the world, and be to yourself your own world."

SHABISTARI "T and 'you' are but the lattices,/ in the niches of a lamp,/ through which the One Light shines./ T and 'you' are the veil/ between heaven and earth;/ lift this veil and you will see/ no longer the bonds of sects and creeds./ When 'I' and 'you' do not exist,/ what is mosque, what is synagogue?/What is the Temple of Fire?"

SHABISTARI "The whole world is yours, yet you remain helpless: one more destitute than you has yet to be seen. They have spoken to you of your Essence. So religious laws have been assigned for you to follow. You are the kernel and the world the shell; Know yourself: the life of the world is you. The world of wisdom and world of the soul are your capital, the earth and sky your ornaments. You are a likeness of the image of God: Ask from yourself anything you may desire."

SHABISTARI "The world has no substantial reality, but exists as a shadowy pageant or play."

SHABISTARI "What are "I" and "You"? Just lattices in the niches of a lamp through which the One Light radiates."

SHABISTARI "You have heard much of this world, yet what have you seen of this world? What is its form and substance? "

SHABISTARI "Your eye has not strength enough To gaze at the burning sun. But you can see its brilliant light By watching its reflection Mirrored in the water. So the reflection of Absolute Being Can be viewed in this mirror of Non Being, For non-existence, being opposite Reality Instantly catches its reflection."

SHAH HATIM "0 ye Hindus and Muslims, Tell me which religion says Ignore the God in your heart And be obsessed only with the temple or the mosque."

SHAH OF IRAN "Let me tell you quite bluntly that this king business has given me personally nothing but headaches... My advisors built a wall between myself and my people. I didn't realise what was happening. When I woke up, I had lost my people."

SHAHNAZYOUSUF "Bus to Muzaffarabad may not be as spectacular as the breaking of the Berlin Wall, but it will leave a positive impact on the psyche of the Kashmir! People. Give peace a chance."

SHAHRIAR SHAHRIARI "Main maxims of Zoroastrianism Humata, Hukhta, Huvarshta, which mean: Good Thoughts, Good Words, Good Deeds. There is only one path and that is the path of Truth. Do the right thing because it is the right thing to do, and then all beneficial rewards will come to you also."

SHAHRIAR SHAHRIARI "On Ahura Mazda Ahura means the Lord Creator, and Mazda means Supremely Wise. This was the name by which Zarathushtra addressed his God. He proclaimed that there is only one God, who is the singular creative and sustaining force of the Universe. Zarathushtra was the first Prophet who brought a monotheistic religion."

SHAHRIAR SHAHRIARI "On Dualism Even though there is only one God, our universe works on the basis of moral dualism. There is Spenta Mainyu or progressive mentality and Angra Mainyu or regressive mentality. Having given us the ability to choose, Ahura Mazda leaves us alone and allows us to make our choices. And if we choose good, we will bring about good, and if we choose evil, we will cause evil This is how the moral universe operates."

SHAIKH ABU SAEED ABIL KHEIR "Let deep longing dwell in your heart,/ never give up, never lose hope."

SHAIKH AL HUJWIR "Man's love towards God is a quality that manifests itself in the heart of the pious believer, in the form of veneration and magnification, so that he seeks to satisfy his Beloved and becomes impatient and restless in his desire for vision of Him, and cannot rest with anyone except Him, and grows familiar with the remembrance of Him, and abjures the remembrance of everything besides."

SHAKESPEAR - "We must take the current when it serves, or lose our ventures."

SHAKESPEAR "And when the mind is quicken'd, out of doubt, The organs, though defunct and dead before, Break up their drowsy grave and newly move With casted slough and fresh legerity."

SHAKESPEAR "Do all men kill the things they do not love?"

SHAKESPEAR -"Small cheer and great welcome makes merry feast."

SHAKESPEAR "We are such stuff As dreams are made on, and our little life Is rounded with a sleep."

SHAKESPEAR "We must not make a scarecrow of the law, Setting it up to fear the birds of prey/ And let it keep one shape, till custom make it Their perch and not their terror."

SHAKESPEAR "Wherein I speak of most disastrous chances, of moving accidentsby flood and field."

SHAKESPEARE "As you are old a reverend, you should be wise."

SHAKESPEARE "Be wary, then; best safety lies in fear."

SHAKESPEARE "Corruption wins not more than honesty."

SHAKESPEARE "Crabbed age and youth cannot live together; Youth is full of pleasure, age is full of care; Youth like summer morn, age like winter weather; Youth like summer brave, age like winter bare; Youth is full sport, age's breath is short; Youth is nimble, age is lame; Youth is hot and bold, age is weak and cold; Youth is wild, age is tame; Age, I do abhor thee: Youth, I do adore thee."

SHAKESPEARE "Ghosts, wondering here and there, troop have to churchyard."

SHAKESPEARE- "I am as poor as job, my lord, but not so patient."

SHAKESPEARE "In time we hate that which we often fear."

SHAKESPEARE "Macbeth: Canst thou not minister to a mind diseased, pluck from the memory a rooted sorrow, Raze out the written troubles of the brain, and with some sweet oblivious antidote Cleanse the stuffed bosom of that perilous stuff Which weighs upon the heart? Doctor: Therein the patient must minister to himself."

SHAKESPEARE "Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing the attempt."

SHAKESPEARE "Out of this nettle, danger, we pluck this flower, safely."

SHAKESPEARE- "Small cheer and great welcome makes merry feast."

SHAKESPEARE "The man that hath no music in himself, Nor is not mov'd with concord of sweet sounds,/ Is fit for treasons, stratagems, and spoils;/ The motions of his spirit are dull as night,/ And his affections dark as , Erebus;/ Let no such man be trusted."

SHAKESPEARE"The prince of darkness is a gentleman."

SHAKESPEARE "The stars above us govern our conditions."

SHAKESPEARE "There is a tide in the affairs of men/ Which, taken at the flood, leads on to fortune;/ Omitted, all the voyage of their life/ Is bound in shallows and in miseries."

SHAKESPEARE "There's no such sport as sport by sport o'erthrown, to make theirs ours and ours none but our own."

SHAKESPEARE "Truth is truth to the end of reckoning."

SHAKESPEARE "Truth will come to light; murder can not be hiding long."

SHAKESPEARE "Vengeance is in my heart, death in my hand, Blood and revenge are hammering in my head."

SHAKTI GAWAIN " We each need to let our intuition guide us, and then be willing to follow that guidance directly and fearlessly."

SHAKTI GAWAIN ". The darkest hour is truly before the dawn."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "Every moment is a moment of creation, and each moment of creation contains infinite possibilities."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "Every moment of your life is infinitely creative and the universe is endlessly bountiful. Just put forth a clear enough request, and everything your heart desires must come to you."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "Falling in love is actually a powerful experience of feeling the universe move through you. The other person has become a channel for you, a catalyst that triggers you to open up to the love, beauty and compassion within."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "Giving happens not from a space of sacrifice, or self-righteousness, or an idea of spirituality, but for the pure pleasure of it because it's fun. It can only come from a full, loving space."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "Going with the flow means holding onto your goals lightly ... and being willing to change them if something more appropriate and satisfying comes along. It means being firm, yet flexible."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "I also know that when I'm trusting and being myself as fully as possible, everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily often miraculously."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "In order to cause a shadow to disappear, you must shine light on it."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "Probably the most difficult part of getting what you want in life is just figuring out what you really want."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "The healing always comes from within."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "The universe will reward you for taking risks on its behalf."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "There is no separation between us and God; we are divine expressions of the creative principle on this level of existence."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "We always attract into our lives whatever we think about the most, believe in most strongly expect on the deepest levels, and/or imagine most vividly If we are basically positive in attitude, expecting and envisioning pleasure, satisfaction and happiness, we will attract and create people, situations, and events which confirm to our positive expectations. So the more positive energy we put into imagining what we want, the more it begins to manifest in our lives."

SHAKTI GAWAIN "We are all born with an infinite number of different qualities or energies within us. One of the most important tasks in our life is to discover and develop as. many of these energies as possible, so that we can be well-rounded, and experience the full range of our potential."

SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA "Do not commit any unwholesome actions Accumulate virtuous deeds, Tame and train your own mind"."

SHAM LAL ""Hell is others", Tagore might have conceded, but he would have added, "So is Heaven". To him there would be no true love without suffering. Parvati looks all the more, lovely after her great penance. Shakuntala's love finds fulfillment only after the ordeal through which she goes..."

SHAM LAL "Ahimsa is not an abstract ideal but a practical idea whose efficacy can be judged only by the celerity with which it goes into action. Perhaps there are saints who do not think ill of anyone and who have rid their minds of the last trace of violence."

SHAM LAL "Ask: Would easier communication be of much avail when people have very little to communicate?"

SHAM LAL "Every philosophy and every religion has its dialectic of grov/th arid decay and it is helpful to understand the circumstances."

SHAM LAL "It is modern poets, playwrights and novelists in contrast to social scientists, who are primarily concerned with existential problem and seek answers to questions which bug the more sensitive today."

SHANA WILSON "Ghosts and goblins and witches with wild hair give you a scare with there wicked stare. If you are scared of the dark or ghastly creatures lurking in the park then you should not go out on Halloween night because most likely it will give you a fright. Poltergeists and zombies come up from their graves and bats are screeching in their caves. Banshees are screaming. I hope your flashlight is beaming. Watch out or something just might say BOO! Don't say that I didn't warn you."

SHANE WARNE "Whoever writes my scripts is doing an unbelievable job... There's some special things that happen in your life and some special days in your life and this is definitely one of them."

SHANNON SERVICE "How I lead my life speaks a prayer for the world I want to create."

SHANTIDEVA "My own self and my pleasures, my righteous past, present and future, may i sacrifice without regard, in order to achieve the welfare of other beings."

SHANTIDEVA "Whenever there is attachment in my mind and whenever there is the desire to be angry, i should not do anything nor say anything..."

SHARON STONE "Love is like heaven, but it can hurt like hell."

SHASHI THAROOR ""But Ammamma", I would ask my grandmother, "why does Ganesh ride a rat?" My grandmother explained that each animal is a symbol of Ganesh's capacities: "like an elephant, he can crash through the jungle uprooting every impediment in his path, while like the rat he can burrow his way through the tightest of defences"."

SHAW, G.B. "EVERYONE DIES, BUT NOT EVERYONE FULLY LIVES. TOO MANY PEOPLE ARE HAVING A NEAR-LIFE EXPERIENCE."

SHEIKH ABDULLAH "Kashmir will ever be with India, whatever sacrifices we shall have to make.

SHEKEL HAKODESH "He who doth choose charity for a fortress will find men of their own accord humble themselves before him; against all daily accidents and dire calamity there's naught to shield affirm man like deeds of kindness."

SHEKEL HAKODESH "Kings may rule the world, but the wise rule kings."

SHEKEL HAKODESH "To be too fond of this world and of that which is there in, provoketh the wrat of Heaven. If thou sacrifice this fondness, thou shalt be sure of the glory and grace of thy God."

SHEL SILVERSTEIN "I will not play tug o' war. I'd rather play hug o' war. Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, and everyone grins, and everyone cuddles, and everyone wins."

SHELDON B. KOPP - "The only times that we can have what we long for are those moments when we stop grasping for it."

SHELDON S. MAYE "I will not condemn you for what you did yesterday. If you do it right today."

SHERIOCK HOLMES "Once you eliminate the impossible, whatever remains, no matter how improbable, must be the truth."

SHERWOOD EDDY "Faith is not trying to believe something regardless of the evidence; faith is daring to do something regardless of the consequences."

SHILPA PREM "The border that stands between you and I Resembles nothing but a clear-cut, fictitious lie."

SHINTO "Even in a single leaf of a tree, or a tender blade of grass, the awe-inspiring Deity manifests."

SHINTO "Even in a single leaf of a tree, or a tender blade of grass, the awe-inspiring Deity manifests Itself."

SHINTO UDEN FUTSUJOSHO "Prayers to the Deity accompanied by monetary gifts secured by injustice are sure not to be granted. Pray in all righteousness and the Deity will be pleased to listen to your supplication. Foolish is he who, in impatient eagerness and without following the path of righteousness, hopes to obtain divine protection."

SHINTOISM "All appetites are natural and hence are divine gifts; and the temperate enjoyment of them is a divine power. If man oversteps the limits of moderation, he pollutes his body and mind. To be godlike is to be natural; to be natural is to follow Nature. Keep within the limits set by instinct and reason. This is the fundamental conception of Due Measure."

SHINTOISM "All things of this world have their own spirituality, as they were born from the divine couple. Therefore, the relationship between the natural environment of this world and people is that of blood kin, like the bond between brother and sister."

SHIRLEY ABBOTT "We all grow up with the weight of history on us. Our ancestors dwell in the attics of our brains as they do in the spiraling chains of knowledge hidden in every cell of our bodies."

SHIRLEY MACLAINE "I don't need a man to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we'll ever have is the one with ourselves."

SHIRLEY MACLAINE "What we are and what we may be Is revealed by the light within."

SHIV KHERA "Successful people don't do different things. They do things differently."

SHIV KHERA "Winning don't do different things, they just do things differently."

SHIVA PURANA "In the pure world of Kailasha, Rudra, the annihilator of living beings, is stationed. Beyond that are the 56 worlds ending with Ahimsa region. The action-Lord who has screened everything is stationed in the city of Jnanakailasha in the Ahimsa region. At the end of the same is the wheel of Time and beyond the ken of Time is the space called Kalatita. There Kala, God of death and Time, backed by Shiva, unites everyone with Time."

SHIVA SUBRAMANIAM "Using six thinking hats and lateral thinking, invented by Edward de Bono, one can enhance confidence in oneself and be a better thinker and creative person."

SHOMSHUKLLA "Those white flowers I know them Do you? From the time I was a child I know them Frangipani I spent many an afternoon collecting them Bending Sometimes sitting On the ground Stretching my young arms Across the grass Or just jumping for them Those white Frangipani."

SHRI MANGATRAMJI MAHARAJ "Whenever there is the influence of the Lord's pleasure, the mind transcends truth and error. At such moments the knowledgeable satpurush understands the inner pleasure that lies within that disinterested transcendence."

SHUETASHUARA UPANISHAD "Meditate and realize this world is filled with the presence of God."

SHUETASHVATARA "One should know that nature is surely maya and the ruler of maya is the Great Lord. This whole world is pervaded by beings that are parts of Him."

SHVETASHVATARA "Health, a light body, freedom from cravings, a glowing skin, sonorous voice, fragrance of body, these signs indicate progress in the practice of meditation."

SHVETASHVATARA UPANISHAD "He is fire and the sun, and the moon/ and the stars. He is the air and the sea/ He is the blue bird, he is the green bird/ with red eyes; he is the thundercloud, / and he is the seasons and the seas/ from his divine power comes forth all this/ Magical show of name and form."

SHVETASHVATARA UPANISHAD "Health, a light body, freedom from cravings, a glowing skin, sonorous voice, fragrance of body: these signs indicate ' progress in the practice of meditation."

SID CAESER- "Never take life seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway."

SID MADWED "When you choose to be happy everyday You'll find good things come your way If you want to be happy start where you are. Don't look for happiness, distant and far. You can find happiness just where you are. You can find it just where you are..."

SIDDHASANA "Lord Mahavira, your word sometimes supports the view of providence, at other times calls events spontaneously occurring or ascribes destiny to external factors. At times you hold) the deeds of individuals to be the mould of their desert, at other times find that another's deeds project their moral reflection on the individual."

SIDHAGOST "The lotus in the water is not wet nor the water-fowl in the stream. If a man would live, but by the world untouched, Meditate and repeat the name of the Lord."

SIDNET POITIER "We will suffer from the preoccupation that there exists, in our love one, perfection."

SIDNEY MADWED "You can choose to be happy or sad and whichever you choose that is what you get. No one is really responsible to make someone else happy, no matter what most people have been taught and accept as true."

SIDNEY PETTIER "We all suffer from the preoccupation that there exists, in our loved one, perfection."

SIGMUND FREUD - "A fool in love makes no sense to me. I only think you are a fool if you do not love."

SIGMUND FREUD "The essential sadness is to go through life without loving. But it is almost equally sad to leave this world without ever telling those you love that you do."

SIGMUND FREUD "A kiss is a trick devised by nature to stop speech when words become superficial."

SIGMUND FREUD "Demons do not exist any more than gods do, being only the products of the psychic activity of man."

SIGMUND FREUD "Dogs love their friends and bite their enemies, quite unlike people, who are incapable of pure love and always have to mix love and hate."

SIGMUND FREUD "Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go."

SIGMUND FREUD "Hopeless romantics are only hopeless in the eyes of those who don't believe in romance."

SIGMUND FREUD "Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces."

SIGMUND FREUD "In the long run nothing can withstand reason and experience."

SIGMUND FREUD "It is a mistake to believe that a science consists in nothing but conclusively proved propositions, and it is unjust to demand that it should. It is a demand only made by those who feel a craving for authority in some form and a need to replace the religious catechism by something else, even if it be a scientific one."

SIGMUND FREUD "Love isn't about becoming somebody's perfect person; it's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be."

SIGMUND FREUD "The essential sadness is to go through life without loving. But it is almost equally sad to leave this world without ever telling those you love that you do,"

SIGMUND FREUD "We are never so helplessly unhappy as when we lose love."

SIGN IN A SHOP "THANK YOU FOR NOT SMOKING. Cigarette smoke is the residue of your pleasure. It contaminates the air, pollutes my hair and clothes, not to mention my lungs. This takes place without my consent."

SIKH PRAYER "Having first remembered God the Almighty, think of Guru Nanak. Then of Angad Guru and Amar Das, and Ram Das, may they help us. Remember Guru Arjan, Guru Har Gobind and the holy Guru Har Rai. Let us think of holy Har Krishan whose sight dispels all sorrows. Let us remember Tegh Bahadur and the nine treasures shall come hastening to our homes. May they all assist us everywhere. May the tenth Guru Gobind Singh the lord of hosts and protector of the faith assist us everywhere: Turn your thoughts. 0, Khalsa to the teachings of Guru Granth Sahib and call on God."

SIKH THOUGHT "From Primal Truth emanated air; from air emanated water; from water emanated three worlds and Himself He merged with the creation."

SIKH THOUGHT "From Primal Truth emanated air; from air emanated water; from water emanated three worlds and Himself He merged with the creation."

SIMI BAJAJ "...The little girl closed her eyes And prayed to the mother divine O Ma, enlighten this world with wisdom Erase the, demarcation line."

SIMI BAJAJ "An aura as brilliant as the magnificent Sun A beauty as luminous as the ethereal Moon A lingering fragrance that reminds you Of beautiful flowers in full bloom."

SIMI BAJAJ "Call her Durga, call her Sati Call her Devi, call her Ma; Pray to her with a true heart And seek her blessings in the Navratra."

SIMI BAJAJ "Do not seek her in lifeless idols Widen your horizon and aim for the whole You will not have to go too far As she resides in the depth of your soul."

SIMI BAJAJ "Her love is unconditional and pure Her presence sweet, soft and calm Her heart is full of deep emotions Her touch, like a soothing balm She is the anchor of wavering ships Sailing on the rough waters of life She slips with ease into the role of a mother After perfecting those of daughter and companion If only the people of this world Treated Mother Earth with the same love As that of their own mother This world would be like heaven above."

SIMI BAJAJ "I see her Image in a helpless, old woman I see her countenance in the smile of a girl I sense her presence everywhere In tinkling anklets and skirts that swirl."

SIMI BAJAJ "Let the girl child enjoy every right equally And not only on these nine holy days Cherish and nurture her forever Make her the light of your life..."

SIMI BAJAJ "She might be the wife of Lord Shiva She might be the mother of Ganesha But I see in her my mother the source of all compassion and love."

SIMI BAJAJ "The experience of Motherhood Gave a new dimension to Love The depth of feelings and emotions Moved, even the heavens and God above."

SIMI BAJAJ "The little girl smiled to herself As she reviewed her precious treasure Glittering bangles, bright dupattas And lots of coins to measure."

SIMI BAJAJ "The most pure relationship in this world Is that of a child and mother Treat me like your child, Oh Devi Ma! For me you are motherhood incarnate."

SIMI BAJAJ "The name they gave her was 'kanjak' But what it meant, she had no clue She was to be worshipped in the Navratras And showered with gifts, too!"

SIMI BAJAJ "Words cannot express the depth of emotions That a man feels on becoming a father A role that grants him maturity and responsibility A role above that of a son, husband or brother I think of my father with deep affection He gave me roots and also wings I feel grateful for all that he did In shaping my heart, that loves and sings."

SIMON AND GARFUNKEL "Old friends, Old friends Sat on their park bench Like bookends. A newspaper blown through the grass Falls on the round toes On the high shoes Of the old friends. Old friends, Winter companions, The old men Lost in their overcoats, Waiting for the sunset. The sounds of the city, Sifting through the trees, Settle like dust on the shoulders Of the old friends. Can you imagine us Years from today, Sharing a park bench quietly? how terribly strange To be seventy Old friends, Memory brushes the same years, Silently sharing the same fear..."

SIMON CAMERON "An honest politician is one who, which he is bought, will stay bought."

SIMONE DE BEAUVOIR-"One is not born a women one becomes one".

SIMONE SIGNORET "Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years."

SIMONE WEIL "If we go down into ourselves, we find that we possess exactly what we desire."

SIMONE WELL "The contemporary form of true greatness lies in a civilization founded on the spirituality of work."

SIMONE WELL "What a country calls its vital economic interests are not the things which enable its citizens to live, but the things which enable it to make war. Petrol is more likely than wheat to be a cause of international conflict."

SINTETOS "A 60-day warranty guarantees that the product will self-destruct on the 61st day."

SIOUX PRAYER "Behold this buffalo, 0 grandfathers, which you have given us. He is the chief of all four-legged upon our Sacred Mother. From him the people live and with him they walk the sacred path."

SIR A.P.HERBERT- "People must not do things for fun. We are not here for fun. There is no reference to fun in any act of parliament."

SIR ARTHUR CONAM DOYLE ""What the deuce is it to me?" he interrupted impatiently; "You say that we go round the serif we went round the moon it would not make a pennyworth of difference to me or to my work".

SIR ARTHUR CONAN DOYLE "When you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth."

SIR EDMUND HILLARY "It is not mountain we conquer, but ourselves."

SIR EDWARD COKE "He is not cheated who knows he is being cheated."

SIR GEORGE PORTER "I have no doubt that we will be successful in harnessing the sun's energy If sunbeams were weapons of war, we would have had solar energy centuries ago."

SIR GEORGE PORTER "If sunbeams were weapons of war, we could have had solar energy centuries ago."

SIR ISAAC NEWTON "I seem to have been only like a boy playing on the seashore, and diverting myself in now and then finding a smoother pebble or a prettier shell than ordinary, whilst the great ocean of truth lay all undiscovered before me."

SIR ISAIAH BERLIN "Man cannot live without seeking to describe and explain the universe."

SIR JAMES FRAZER "The moral world is as little exempt as the physical world from the law of ceaseless change, of perpetual flux."

SIR JAMES M. BARRIE "If you have love, you don't need anything else. And if you don't have it, it does not matter much what else you have."

SIR JOHN LUBBOCK "What we see depends mainly on what we look for."

SIR MARTIN REES "It gives one a slightly different perspective on time scales. From astronomy one learns the immense time spans involved in cosmic evolution billions of years. More importantly, we are still at the beginning of cosmic evolution, not the culmination. Even our sun is less than halfway through its life. So we should regard ourselves as part of the natural order, rather than the culmination of it... There's as much time ahead of us as there has been in

SIR MARTIN REES "We are the dust of long dead stars. Or, if you want to be less romantic, we are nuclear waste... The most wonderful thing we know about in the universe is life, and that's the most complicated emergent phenomena we know of."

SIR PHILIP SIDNEY "They are never alone that are accompanied with noble thoughts."

SIR ROGER L. ESTRANGE "It is with your passions, as it is with fire and water, they are good servants but bad master."

SIR THOMAS BROWNE "By compassion we make others' misery our own, and so, by relieving; them, we relieve ourselves also."

SIR WALTER RALEIGH "Give me my scallop shell of quiet, My staff of faith to walk upon, My scrip of joy, immortal diet, My bottle of salvation, My gown of glory, hope's true gage, And thus I'll take my pilgrimage."

SIR WALTER SCOTT- "All men who have turned out worth any thing have had the chief hand in their own education."

SIR WINSTON CHURCHILL "If you're going through hell, keep going."

SIR WINSTON CHURCHILL "Kites rise highest against the wind, not with it."

SISMUND FREUD "Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces."

SKYE THOMAS "I'd rather be pissed off with my eyes wide open than to be blessed out with my eyes glazed over."

SLMAN RUSHDIE- "Free speech is the whole thing, the whole ball game. Free speech is life itself."

SNOOP DOGG "Don't get upset girl, that's just how it goes/ I don't love you hoes/I'm out the do. And I'll be/Rollin' down the street/' Smokin' indo/sippin' on gin and juice."

SOCRATES "As for me, all I know is that I know nothing."

Automatic blog by iAutoblog

How to Catch My Husband Cheating Using Mobilespy

Do you want to learn how to catch my husband cheating using Mobilespy? Do you think that your husband is cheating on you and is using his cell phone to condone his cheating? Is your husband's cell phone is form of communication to his mysterious mistress? Is he constantly on his cell phone talking to someone that he will never tell you who? When he gets a certain phone call or text message does your husband leave the room or move away from you in an effort to not allow you to hear his conversation?



Do you wake up in the middle of the night only to find your husband not lying in bed next to you? When you go to look for your husband do you find him on his cell phone obviously talking to someone? If you ask your husband who he is talking to does he make up something that you know isn't the truth? Does he tell you that he is talking to a friend or business partner? Would you like to know how to catch my husband cheating using Mobilespy?


Attempting to catch a cheating spouse has been a problem in many couples. Both men and women endlessly search for methods and ways to monitor their significant other's activities to see if they are cheating or not. Most of the time they come up with methods that don't work or only find information that leaves them wondering with no solid evidence. When trying to catch your husband cheating you need to find a method that will provide you with concrete evidence so that you aren't caught making false accusations.



One of the most popular and effective ways to find evidence is through your husband's cell phone. He has to communicate with the person he is cheating on you with in some way and it is most likely his cell phone. Because so many women are anxious to find out if their husband is cheating or not they don't find the proper tools to use. Many women will try and take their husband's phone and look through it to find evidence. However this won't give you the information you are looking for because your husband probably deletes all of the evidence on his cell phone that shows him cheating on you. If there are mysterious numbers in his call history then he probably erases these numbers so that you can't find them. If there are intimate text messages on his cell phone then he probably erases these as well.



If you want to see the information on your husband's phone without having to worry about it getting erased then you will need to use Mobilespy. Mobilespy is cell phone spying software. It records all of the data on your husband's cell phone for you to view. His text messages and phone calls will be recorded and uploaded to your personal online account. Even if your husband erases all of the data on his phone it will still be recorded by Mobilespy.

Automatic blog by iAutoblog

Catch a Man Cheating - What Do Wedded Men Feel Like After Cheating?

Crushing man pride

Brit Ekland one time stated that she had never slept with married men, but in the sense that she never did it never with happily married men.

At first glance, it is compliant that men feel quite good after cheating.

In time, on account of marriage compliance and monotony, it has been shown that men feel trapped, consider that their wives can't understand them, and therefore suffer from this situation. After cheating, men have a strange sense of relief combined with welfare, and its essence cannot be denied.

Furthermore, men are drawn by passion and after wedded men have taken a false step, it's interesting that although many admit that infidelity is bad, many of them still practice it. They apologies a lot, but sustain that they can hardly master the psychological hunger for sex and among those who do it again it is a way to maintain their ego.

Men feel strong and their masculinity becomes visible when they are near a women and have the chance to take care of such sensitive,tender and obedient persons as them. When cheating, men often feel neglected and are misled by the delusion that their wives do not fully comprehend them and do not offer the respect they need.

Unhappily, after cheating, the husband finds himself without any drop of respect or dignity and moreover, he realizes that the respect he had was bounded to his wife, not to a secret woman with no sense of commitment. It is important to keep in mind that when we assume responsibility, we have to be careful because our freedom is in stake.

Remorse feelings

An important aspect is that after marriage, men become much more accustomed with women around them, and represent an attraction towards the opposite sex. In these circumstances, the unfaithful husband holds that he never intended to leave his wife, but wanted to get involved in an handy affair to satisfy his needs. Most women dealing with married men relationships disclosed the main reason for which they ended it was their marriage; it reminded men about their mistakes and because they were not willing to leave their wives, the relationships had no future.

Of course, there are men who strongly believe that they can offer unconditionally love to their wives and still have sex with other women, without no hard feelings; in their opinion the relationship is just a physical one, without any emotional behavior being involved . On account of men powerlessness to offer integrity, married man who cheat feel that they never abandoned their loved ones, just involved in an unimportant physical affair.

Finally, remorse feelings prove married men that the balance they are looking for lies in their marriage, and this belief is the one requires on order to avoid future mistakes. The unfaithful husband knows that his deed will shade their marriage, always reminding them about his infidelity. And this situation may be improved but it needs a lot of love, commitment and most importantly, trust and fidelity. Obviously, this is a clear proof of the price paid when committing this kind of nonsense. Therefore, it is better to think twice before cheating, and in a marriage it's crucial the existence of agreement and communication between partners.

Automatic blog by iAutoblog

Ways of Catching a Cheating Wife

In some relationships and marriages, one of the partners may stray from the relationship and may cheat on the other person. Research shows that men are more likely to cheat than women but there has been an increase in the number of women who cheat on their partners. It is sometimes hard to tell if your wife is seeing someone else and sometimes people mistakenly accuse their spouse of cheating. There are ways, however, that if you suspect that you have a cheating wife that you can catch her.

The signs of infidelity differ from situation to situation but in most cases there are some common traits across the board. The biggest sign of infidelity is a sudden change in behaviour and by this we mean a drastic change. For example, does your wife hate night clubs and then suddenly she begins going out to clubs with her friends on a regular basis and always finds excuses to go out to the same place? This is a sign that something may be going on. However, this is not a definite indication that your wife is cheating, but it may make you question her.

If you do suspect that you wife is cheating then you might want to start monitoring her behaviour and where she goes. You can do this yourself or you may hire someone else to do it. This may seem like something you see in the movies but there are people out there who are qualified and who have the resources to follow your wife and report back to you on where she has been and what she has been doing. However, if your wife is not cheating and she finds out that you have had her followed then you might be risking ruining your relationship. It might be hard to explain to your wife that you suspect her of cheating and therefore had her followed.

You can also start making notes of changes in your wife behaviour. Keep a journal of her reported activities. This is a great way to notice anything that might seem off or something that might stand out. You can also monitoring incoming and outgoing calls. Is your wife receiving or making calls late at night and trying to hide it from you? If you suspect that you wife is cheating in your own home then you can plan unexpected visits during the date, for example you can start coming home for lunch without notifying her in advance. You may also want to start ending your work day early and coming home early. If you suspect that your wife is cheating with someone from the work place then you can make unexpected visits to work as well. However if you do this then you must have an excuse or reason to be there if this is something that you have never done before.

Monitoring your wife spending habits is another good way to find out if she is cheating. For example, if your wife starts shopping or eating in unusual places on a regular basis then you might want to question what is going on. It is important that you do so in a non-accusing way as there may be a chance that you are wrong and wrongfully accusing your wife of cheating is not going to strengthen your relationship.

Automatic blog by iAutoblog

Should I Give My Cheating Husband A Second Chance? If So, How?

I'm often contacted by women who are torn as to whether to give their husband's who have cheateda second chance in the marriage. Often, the wives don't want to break up their families or give up years of commitment and love over just one poor decision, but there is often more to the story than this. Many times, they are scared that they will open their hearts and be vulnerable again only to laterfind that their husband has cheated again. Or, they are afraid that ultimately, there is too much pain, betrayal, and awkwardness now under the bridge for the marriage to really survive. And finally, many women worry that if they try to save the marriage, people will think that they are naive, spineless, or have no self respect.

I'll address all of these things in this article as well as some questions and considerations I believe you need to honestly answer to help you uncover if giving your husband another chance would be the best choice for you. (Note that sometimes your husband may not be giving you what you need because he can't read your mind. So, if your husband isn't fulfilling all of the suggestions I list, don't hesitate to ask him to do so.)

Is The Cheating An Isolated Incident?: First, it's important to take a look at the circumstances around the cheating or the affair. Admittedly, all infidelity can be a marital deal breaker, but a husband who has cheated multiple times will be harder to rehabilitate than a husband who had one regrettable one night stand. And, a husband who had a briefemotional affair is easier to rehabilitate than the husband who had a long term, intense affair that he's having a problem giving up.

Any of these situations can be overcome with intense work and commitment.Both parties need to understand why the cheating happened and fix the issues.Obviously though, the best case scenario is that the husband has completely closed off contact with the other person and is fully committed to saving the marriage and remaining faithful to his wife.

Is Your Husband Being Accountable And Forthcoming?: Many husbands want to get past the affair as quickly as possible because they think the longer they talk about or dwell on it, the more pain that it brings up. But often, a wife will need more than this. Wives want to understand why the affair happened and they need the reassurance and accountability that it is not going to happen again.

I always tell husbands to hand over their cell phone records and their email password without being asked. I also tell them to call often to check in with their wives. Because although they sometimes feel guilty about it, for quite some time after an affair, a wife wants to know where her husband is (and with who). A husband who understands this and makes himselfavailable is helping his wife heal.

Are You Both Committed To Doing To Work Necessary To Get Past The Affair?: I used to never believe people who said that marriages can improve and become stronger after an affair. From personal experience though, I know now thatthis is true. The work following an affair can be difficult and even painful sometimes. But, it is so worth it because both parties learn to improve their communication and intimacy, and to not take one another for granted. Often, an affair will shine a light on your marriage's vulnerabilities. Once, you address these and work through them, you're often left with a marriage that is actually stronger and more fulfilling. For this to happen though, both parties need to be on board and willing to speak up, define what they need, and to not be shy about asking for it.

Is Your Husband Generous With Reassurance And Support?: Over and over, I see women who want to save their marriages following an affair, but who are stuck. With a little digging, I typically find that there is a self esteem issue brought on by the affair. What happens is that the wife doesn't feel loved and desired by her husband. She wants and needs his reassurance but feels too needy or high maintenance to ask for it. So,she sitssilent and doubtful. Meanwhile, the husband wants to initiate intimacy and closeness, but he isafraid his wife will think he's a pig who "only thinks about one thing" when he does.

So often, wives can't believe their husbands still want them because they don't see themselves as desirable and unfortunately, this has nothing to do with their husbands. It's extremely important that you be selfish here and focus on your own self care. Address any issues that make you doubt yourself. I went back to school and dropped some weight, but this may be different for you. It's very important that you don't walk around like a victim that has lost all of her power. Understand that you are every bit the beautiful exciting women you were before any of this business happened. One act can not change that.

Whether to give your unfaithful husband another chance is a personal decision, but I often find that this decision often depends on the marriage before the affair. If you were happy, fulfilled, and loved your family life, it's hard to give all of that up because of one event. But, if your marriage was not a good one before the affair, you'll need to work harder to achieve a complete overhaul that makes a second chance a sound choice.

Although I never would've believed this two years ago, my marriage is stronger than ever after my husband's affair. It took a lot of work, and I had to play the game to win, but it was worth it. Because of all the work I did on myself, my self esteem is at an all time high. I know longer worry my husband will cheat again. You can reada very personal story on my blog at http://surviving-the-affair.com/

Automatic blog by iAutoblog