When you are looking for how to save your relationship it makes the most sense to start with the basics and build your way up. Your effort might be admirable, but if you go about things in the wrong order you may actually make things worse and drive your love interest further away, maybe even for good.
You know, the government and our parents require that we spend (and waste?) a lot of years in primary, secondary and even college classrooms. They teach us lots of basics in math, English and science; most of which we quickly forget. But something usable like Relationships 101 is glaringly absent from any curriculum.
So here is a little bit of what I call Relationships 101 to teach you how to save your relationship. It is not uncommon for a relationship to hit a rough patch, in fact it is more common than not from my observation. One problem is that many people give up too soon.
Many of these relationships can be fixed, but never get to that stage because one or both parties got angry or were hurt and never saw past that. There may have been a little too much self focus or even near sightedness; concentrating on today and forgetting to look forward a ways.
There are times, too, when only one person is interested in how to save your relationship and that just does not work very well. Both of you need to be concerned with your future together and need to be willing to work at the relationship to keep it healthy and especially to repair it.
Before criticizing your partners behavior toward you, take a look at how you have behaved toward them. We are not assigning blame here, but that's part of it; do not try to blame him or her without checking your own words and actions.
Remember, all I ever needed to know I learned in kindergarten? It is kind of like the golden rule, do unto your partner as you want them to do unto you.
Do you want him or her to be selfish and always demand their own way? Probably not, so make sure that is not what you are doing. How often do you think of what you can do for them without expecting anything in return?
If you have been together for a while, you are probably comfortable around them. That is good on one hand, you should be comfortable with someone you love. But it is bad if you are taking them for granted or doing things you would not do in front of someone new. Think about that one.
Pretend you have just met this person and are courting their interest. How would you dress, what would you say, how would you act? Try that and see how they respond and hopefully even reciprocate.
If or when they hurt you, calmly explain it, and tell them you expect differently. Maybe they do not even realize it. Open a dialogue so that you both can work toward the same goal of saving your relationship together.
A relationship is a journey, sometimes the road is paved and sometimes it is not. Do not give up when you hit that rough patch.
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