Nothing is easy and most of the people find it hard to get on with life after a breakup mostly wishing things could be different. Think of all the days with tem and those without them, you might feel that breakup wasnt a bad idea.
If your decision is to get back to your love, the first step is to apologize. You might have actually done this many times before and at the time of break up. But there are chances that your partner didnt take them as sincere ones. They would have thought they were just to save the relationship and not really meant.
If you are on the wrong side you have to apologize now again. This time they may consider it as there is no need for it now. The relationship has already ended and you dont have a reason to apologize to keep the relationship.
If your ex was on the wrong side, then dont expect a sincere apology from their side. You should forgive them instead. That might seem very hard at times, especially for a cheating, but it helps to forgive them. Its also hard to forgive and really mean it. It is simple to say I forgive you but its hard to really forgive. Forgiving can be one of your best steps in getting back your ex and also to avoid any problems in future.
Even if you get your love back, a few days or a few months in to the newly patched relationship, you would start getting the old issues again. This happens if you have not actually forgiven that person. You may really find it hard to hold on and harsh words may come into your relationship.
You will be able to get on with the relationship only if you have truly forgiven the person. Probably then there would be no need to dig your past and lament over it. While working on forgiving them for all that caused the breakup, forgive them for the actual breakup itself so that you can save a lot of pain in future. Therefore forgiving them truly is very important even after getting back your lost one.
To win back your love fully, show them the person they fell in love with and not actually the one they dumped. When they first loved you, they surely saw something in you, may be your kindness or thoughtfulness or some such good qualities. Show them those. They did not love you because you are hurtful and jealous or something as such. While its hard to hide your hurt, it would be much better if you could concentrate on being the best person possible. This would probably get back your ex and also help you hold your relationship much longer.
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